Money for Nothing

 

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00:00:03 Get your money for nothing and your chicks for free? Get your money for nothing and your checks for free? We used to play that song, I Want My MTV. We played that album over and over and over again. And we debated the words to that song. Get your money for nothing and your chicks for free. Those are the kind of...

00:00:32 That's when our debates were fun and funny, and they were. I mean, they always kind of were anyway, but it's just so funny. Get your money for nothing and your checks for free. Get your money for nothing and your checks for free. I don't know which of us thought it was what between Tess and I. All I know is it was 1986. We had a brand new Honda, blue Honda Accord. We were so proud to have that car.

00:00:57 And we would drive to the beach because I got the two-week vacation from Sears. And that was a blessing. And that's the way it was. And Linda would come down and visit and stay with us for two weeks. No, it was a week. I'm sorry. It was only a week. But, you know, who cares? The point is, she would come down and stay with us. And it was just heaven on earth. And, you know, it's a weird thing how bad things lead to good things or, you know...

00:01:26 lemonade out of lemons i don't know how you know how many uh cliches there are to cover that but linda was going through a very tough time a very tough time and i don't need to go into the detail maybe i do she was going through a separation because there's another story to go with this and she was going through a separation and i know that has to be very very very very difficult and

00:01:54 and she had her little baby girl, Dara, and I had our baby girl, Lauren, and Eric, and we would get down there and she would meet and stay with us. This was truly a family reunion. Without this, without the bad things going on, by that I mean without the separation, this probably never would have happened. And for that reason, we probably never would have had these memories of being together at the beach.

00:02:22 And so, you know, you don't know it at the time. I mean, you don't say, oh, good, I'm glad something bad's happening because that means there's going to be a silver lining. And, oh, I can't wait for the silver lining and see what that is. I mean, maybe...

00:02:36 Maybe you can keep a positive attitude to get through stuff. That's true. But anyway, sticking with the point, we're listening to Dire Straits, Brothers in Arms. That was the name of the album. Now I'm hooked completely on Sultans of Swing, which was not on that album. But Get Your Money for Nothing, The Walk of Life. No, The Walk of Life is a different song. So even that, that was a third big hit.

00:03:03 So it is amazing how music kind of is the roadmap for your life, the soundtrack for your life. It's very true. It's very time-related, time-oriented. And it kind of plays in the background of those memories. And the reason I brought it up right now is because I don't know how or why I stumbled on this on YouTube. I guess because it feeds me things I like. But anyway...

00:03:30 It was Mark Knopfler playing with Sting and with Eric Clapton. And Sting was Tess's other love in life, musical love in life. And I guess seeing them together and just thinking about Tess and thinking about us, it just brought a tear to my eye. It's one of those sentimental journeys that suddenly you're on it. It's just an amazing thing how grief

00:04:00 Missing somebody, you know, grieving for somebody, it just comes and goes in little phases, little bits here and there.

00:04:12 You know, I named this blog Suddenly Single and that's what it's about. And this is one of those things. There are people around me who are mourning the loss of their spouse and they're truly, truly mourning and seem to be depressed and sad. And, you know, I understand that. And I sympathize with that, empathize with that. But I guess I'm lucky in a lot of ways where what my experiences have been so far is kind of little sentimental journeys.

00:04:42 where I'm sad, I feel sad, I feel emotionally moved, let's put it this way. And yeah, I miss her, I miss us, I miss what we had, but I'm not, I don't know, why do you even say it? I just, I'm not depressed. I feel kind of blessed in a way to be able to have these memories and to be able to look back

00:05:07 with fondness about, you know, of those times. And yet when I do, yes, it can bring a tear to your eye. But Tess loved certain music, loved music in general in some ways, but certain things she didn't like. And I think she would make kind of a goal line stand over. She didn't like the Beatles. And since everybody in our circle loved the Beatles, she just kind of took a position. I don't like the Beatles. I don't wanna listen to Beatles.

00:05:35 And in a way, she's right. There are musical groups that are much more talented than the Beatles. They're musically talented. Maybe they have better voices, better harmonies, better musicians or whatever. I don't really need to go into that debate. I'm just saying she's not wrong. It's a personal taste as well. But Sting was one of her favorites. And so, you know, whatever she liked, I liked.

00:06:01 That was my mantra. That's how it worked. Whatever she liked, I liked, and I would try to get it for her and, you know, be that, you know, for her, whether it was the album itself, which in those days, in those days when we first started, they were record albums. Then they graduated. Well, then we got tapes.

00:06:22 Then they graduated up to CDs, and that's when we thought we'd really made the big time. Now, because CDs were kind of less vulnerable to scratches and so forth, well, now we stream everything. You can't scratch a stream

00:06:38 You just replay it over and over and over again. Of course, you don't get an album cover. You don't get the album notes or anything. It's all, you know, now it's just down to the music. If you like that song, play that song. Where albums at least had personality and they had a physical, tangible aspect that, you know, you could keep them in your living room, keep them in your collection, look at them once in a while. And, you know, there was more of a connection, I think.

00:07:07 But that's just old time nostalgia, I guess, talking. But anyway, like I said, memories of Tess, things we did together, having our little vacations, that picture that I found of me carrying Lauren down to the ocean when she was scared of the water. She was so afraid. And I just, you know, calmed her down. I didn't want to just give into it, but I wasn't going to force it, you know, throw her into the pool or,

00:07:34 You know, hey, you'll learn how to swim. No, not that. Excuse me. I just got over this deathly ill virus. But anyway, we were able to take these little vacations and it was just heaven on earth. It was wonderful. And

00:07:52 Whether it's money for nothing and your chicks for free or your checks for free, in the long run, I don't know. I could look it up right now, but I think the debate is more fun. Somehow the debate and being curious about the words and arguing over them or whatever, hearing it one way and you hear it another way, I don't know. That's what makes life interesting.

00:08:17 So that's enough. We'll talk to you soon. Oh, I'm watching From Here to Eternity. And that's another thing I'm doing these days is I'm taking time to watch movies that I've heard about all my life but never watched them, never saw them. And so now I'm taking time to do that. All right, so I'm going to get back to my movie and you get back to your life. Bye-bye for now.