Suddenly Single and Seeking Validation Part 7

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I just realized when I looked down it does give me the final it does tell me how long it's been recording. So I'm going to glance at that once in a while. Um Alice, see see how I'm I'm using our conversation to circle back to the topic. Uh you know it it's just kind of funny because to me this is more or less the whole umbrella of validation. When you show interest in another person, you are telling them they are important, they mean something and that makes them feel good and then they want to talk more. You're doing it to me. I'mdoing it right now. I'm talking. So, I have to throw the ball back to you. But Alice, I'm thrilled or I'm really fascinated with what you said by um you know, venturing into that online dating uh medium. And um you know, my my son did say, "Mom, you were lucky." And I'm not saying I wasn't. I had people that were younger than me helping me do things that would protect myself, right? So that was in place. So I think I was fortunate. But I do think that for me the key was getting young people who were moreaware of this whole world to help me set up everything so that I would be safe. Well, and I think that's a very good thing. Number one, um I do think it's a different world for men and women. Um, I might be naive or wrong about that, but I'm pretty sure I'm pretty right. Um, you know that women run a greater risk because guys are who they're they're guys. there. A lot of us are bad and you know do bad things and uh one of my friends ran into that either once or twice where you know they nurtured arelationship and then they tried to get money out of them and uh the whole damn thing was a scam. Yeah. The whole damn thing was never had that. Yeah. No. And and like you said and you know you can always say well buyer beware and you shouldn't been gullible. You shouldn't have done this. But, you know, you can get you can get sucked into it. Um, because they're very skilled at this stuff and and even I got sucked into that one where they said they were from Duke Power and turning off my my poweror whatever and all I needed to do is buy a gift card to pay for the power bill, you know. Oh my god. So, here I was, Mr. Knowitall, Mr. You know, whatever techsavvy and I almost fell for it. But so going back to this and then this friend of mine online said uh that she was lovebombed that she used this phrase lovebombed where this guy I've heard of that I had never heard of it before but I get it kind of right away but you know she said this guy came on to her and you know he's you know whatever sending herflowers send her to roses and saying how wonderful she is this that and the other thing and then she you know falls into that belief system and then he turns out to be a very uh possessive and abusive person and um it wasn't online dating I don't think but it was just that's what a woman can run into and that's what a guy I guess theoretically could run into but like I said I think as a father and whatever I'm a little more cautious and and concerned about um the welfare of the of the female um but again repeatingmyself But it's kind of funny as I sit here that this temptation that I had a few years ago, I literally don't have it. Now, I could hang up from talking to you and say, "Hey, you know what? I think I'll I think I'll go on there and and see what's happening on Tinder or whatever, whatever the hell's out there." I don't think so. I I I know. So, I I know I won't because right now I truly want to kind of nurture this relationship um as a friend, as a support person. And then the, you know, I've made friendswith the oddest people, not odd, they're not odd people, but oddest situations. um the the lady at the um at the funeral home, we had some really sweet conversations, good conversations, and I started to get to know her. And then um but not, you know, again, not on a romantic level, but just liking each other. And um so, you know, I said it's been like over a year. It's been a long time. And uh oh, sure. Come over. We'd love to see you. You know, bring Zeke. we'd love to see you and talk and everything else.So, I might go over and visit with her again. And then my banker, my banker, you know, we started having this conversation because I've used this phrase before. We're we're kind of members of this club all of a sudden. Not that we wanted to join, not that we even knew existed. But when you become a widow or a widowerower, you suddenly start bumping into other people that have that they're in that same boat. And so you have a certain level of commonality you can talk about, you know, and uh it's justkind of interesting. Well, and you know what's going through my mind right now, Peter, is um I keep seeing blurbs about young people today are not happy. Now I'm not I don't know the age group of the young people like if you know I'm not sure about that but um I do read that you know get out make friends connect with people and when you consider the way we grew up compared to the way people are growing young people are growing up the last what 20 years, 10 years, I can understand, you know, why we behave differently in ourdaily world experiences, right? Because we've typically done it face to face or on the phone, you know, years ago. Right. Right. And you know I like I I really want to know I'm going to study this because I read more about it because I really want to know more about that. Um I'm happy to say that my family and grandchildren seem happy, right? So I don't think I have it in my family. However, you know, um it is, you know, it is um I'm curious about it and I've heard that a lot of people do not want toum date because they say on the dating site they cannot meet people that a lot of women say that the men are too immature and just all sorts of things. So of course I'm I'm just saying these thoughts it's different for every generation. It is it's different for every generation and every person. But you know yeah we do there are kind of generalities or whatever and there's certain things to be cautious of. There's a woman. We're getting I might need to stop. Um, let me stop it and start again. Okay. So, picking up