Suddenly Single and Seeking Validation Part 3

 

You

You know this whole thing is experimental and you've been so validating so supporting of it and 

Alice McCracken Hurst

Well, I'm in all of your technology 

You

Ha ha ha 

Alice McCracken Hurst

capability 

You

well you know see that's the funny thing about it. I have some skills I stumble around on it and then you know I see other people that have these phenomenal skills so I'm always comparing myself to people that are better but then I'm trying to get better but I'm actually thinking this is throwing it out there, but I'm actually thinking about maybe trying to do a class with With tech again because I was teaching there for years and I really really enjoyed it then I stopped and I kind of regretted that I didn't start you know up here before I stopped down there but now I have a situation now or maybe maybe I could teach this class the things I've been trying to learn myself so we'll see if we do that OK, so back to friendships and everything goes first off you as you've pointed out you're a very Oh my gosh, the word just slipped. You're not introverted your extroverted 

Alice McCracken Hurst

Yes, and I'm 

You

runway 

Alice McCracken Hurst

E NFT extroverted intuitive Feeling perceiving that's 

You

OK 

Alice McCracken Hurst

Myers-Briggs. Some people have heard of it some 

You

Wow 

Alice McCracken Hurst

haven't but that's my. Personality type according to Myers bricks and then someone recently told me that I'm a number three with I think it's called Well, I'll just look it up. It's a number and it does parallel with my personality. It is called Life path number 

You

OK 

Alice McCracken Hurst

And that's interesting. You know what to do. It's online 

You

OK 

Alice McCracken Hurst

but I have gotten to know Myself through my significant other in my move here More about who I am that parts of myself didn't even realize was there but I do understand that I'd rather be with people doing great things than I would think of that before I think of going to the mountains are going to the beach you're going to a lake. I'm just 

You

OK 

Alice McCracken Hurst

really I'm so social and it's. It's interesting because You know the more you get to know yourself the more comfortable you are with yourself 

You

That would be the goal that would certainly be the goal and I think a very valid goal valid comes from validation. It's just you know because like you said you can either kind of grow in confidence or you can maybe grow. In withdrawal and I've witnessed, I've 

Alice McCracken Hurst

Well, that's true 

You

witnessed 

Alice McCracken Hurst

yeah 

You

people I've witnessed people that do that and you know you kind of feel sorry for them. You kind of wanna help them or fix them. And then I find myself you know maybe I could fall into that too for a while so I know I don't consider myself kind of above that at all But I also kind of I'm kind of thankful that I have whatever the energy is that kind of wants me to get out there and try again or do it again or whatever and so I guess I always come back to you. You know I'm I'm very average being average is pretty good. You know what I mean and just you know doing the best you can within your realm but We're talking about you know validation from other people And also validation from within and kind of the balance between the two a hermit could be very validated he could say I know my life is perfect and I've watched a few videos about that. In fact Denzel Washington has some great videos out there, and I don't even know if he actually did them, but they're in his voice and image and the messages are very good. So you know it's just been an interesting process. I need to stop it and start it again I think but I think when you lose your spouse, I think it's nice to be in a certain state of turmoil and the other day and in one of our groups I said I think one of the stages is shock I think in the beginning you're kind of more or less in shock you kinda don't even know what happened or you know what's that you're going through the motions of taking care of Business. And you know your functioning theoretically at least I was but then when it all goes away, you know you're sitting there with him now who am I now you know cause you kind of lost half your identity. You've given me a lot of praise and I've learned to accept that to agree without being arrogant about it, but I really kind of do feel. That I've made significant progress in learning to just be by myself And maybe that's a form of self validation too, but I wanna find a new partner on a certain level not the same level we have before, but in this age of life, you know to have friendship and to have whatever you call in A more intimate relationship that's not based on teenage or middle year drives just based on mutual respect and caring about each other so I'm still very open for that and that opens us up to the next segment we see and you found that so I wanna hear about that Without naming names necessarily, but let's stop and start again and see if we can talk about finding that new partnership. Does that sound good? 

Alice McCracken Hurst

That sounds great 

You

All right, sweetheart I'm gonna stop it and start again