Suddenly Single and Seeking Validation Part 2

 

Oh fantastic so now I've learned something there I can stop and start a new recording in the same phone conversation so we're talking about validation. Alice you made some just really really good points and you know yourself validating and self validating and you're not just doing something off the top of your head or maybe you are but I mean you still think it through and say is this is this going to be you know the good thing the right thing or whatever and then once you test it out I think you were saying then you can proceed with it. So I think that's great and I think it is a great sign of maturity and I appreciate you sharing that 

Alice McCracken Hurst

Well, you're welcome. It has come through years of wanting to become a better person to myself and all the people that I come in contact with especially my loved ones. And Because that's my main goal I have simplified it I guess you know so that That's my main goal so I'm not trying for ideas at one time. I'm just thinking of how I'm treating myself and how I'm treating others. 

You

And that's well that's that's beautiful. That's lovely. Are they OK? So why did they even bring the topic up? I think because I've been wondering if I'm needing validation more than I should that I should try to be much more focused on self validation and so I'll give you a couple of examples here first off you're a very validating friend and you know we're not asking for it necessarily but we're certainly getting it or I'm getting it from you as as a true friend that I trust. So and I think that's a wonderful thing when you know somebody well enough you literally you know can just more or less know you can trust their feedback is gonna be genuine. OK feedback that's that's the thing about it so you know I've turned this this YouTube and Hobby and also into a kind of almost daily validation of a sort where I enjoy doing it you know I just I was gonna stop after I reached 100 then I kinda did the next one and then I said you know I just like doing it and so I was kind of self validating there I don't send it to my friends or once in a while I do and that's kind of with with where this discussion is gonna take us, but by enlarge the validation I get is feeling like I did a pretty good job of figuring it out and you know it's enjoyable then I have to admit when I get a bunch of views Those views make me feel validated people are watching it and so is that kind of gives me a little feedback so but where I found myself kind of lacking or wondering I had done one which I then did send to A group of friends 

Alice McCracken Hurst

And I love the expression, and I still use it with myself Be attached to the outcome And I think so from hearing you talk about this Genuinely and honestly, you weren't looking for praise you were looking for feedback in my opinion now that's how I see it Well, and I want delete the word praise I don't I don't like that after. I said that I thought why did I say that I just wanna say feedback? I believe it's because you are sharing friend And I really I don't know if it's validation is it validation or is it sync that? Oh, OK cause I haven't used that word in years so I'm you know I need to get What is it? I need more experience with the word maybe Do you think I'm because?