Suddenly Single and Seeking Validation Part 8

We've done a bunch of separate calls. Now, I'm doing it with the theory that I can, you know, be able to upload these calls because they're great, these recordings. But, um, if it all goes down to just another long phone call with my best friend, so be it. You know, but it's kind of funny. I think I do think in terms of legacy a little bit of of you know what what I'm leaving behind so to speak and you know so you know try to be a little bit aware of that but um you know you okay you're saying that you know people out thereare saying like you know like you said the women are saying the men are immature and this and that or whatever and it's I think it's very true a lot what I've there's one woman that I listen to uh who's blogging who uh or youtubing and um she's very very honest, very um kind of doing a well really in a way almost a role model for what I was doing and am doing but she goes on camera and just sits there and talks from her you know from her couch and her dogs come up and jump on her lap and stuff and you know it's all veryinformal but it's also very personal and um you know she's is an attractive woman in her, you know, in her time, whatever, in this generation. And um, like she says, she's met a lot of jerks and, you know, nothing dangerous like we've been talking about. nobody trying to, you know, you know, rob her or whatever, but just kind of shallow, uh, you know, non pursuable people. And, um, so I don't know where she is right now, but a lot of times they'll say, "I give up. I've had enough. No more of this." And,um, you know, I kind of I get it. I get it. And uh you know then of course people will leave comments which I have done it myself and then she'll kind of heart the comment and make you feel at least she see at least she validated that you said something. She didn't have to start a big conversation but she validated that I left the comment. And that's the irony, Alice. The the experiences that I've had so far because not only do I do the Google reviews, I will go on there since I'm watching so much YouTube. I'll saysomething, you know, to that YouTuber and I'm telling you, I have had some great conversations, very helpful conversations on practical things like buying this home battery and stuff that I've, you know, researched and want to do. They'll get back to me and tell me, you know, what their experience was. Anyway, it's been fun in that respect. It's been great. Your turn. Sometimes I feel like I talked and I lost you. No, no, I'm right here. This is funny though, and it's typically not my nature tosay. Oh my gosh. If somebody doesn't say or validate that I wrote him a text or commented on something, I just don't even I don't even look for it or care about it. Now, I don't know why. That's good. But I really I figured they're busy or they don't do that or but I don't take it personally. I wonder why. I used to Well, I No, I think it depends. It kind of depends on who it is you're communicating with because like 99% of them I don't even think about it. But the one or two% um who do come back val kind of just like I saidvalidate the fact that they are listening to and reading people's comments and they're coming back. And then when I sent it to specific people I consider my friends, that's where I was kind of looking for that validation. And I think well and in a way now actually a friend of mine was talking about this the other day. They were saying, you know, I sent this person a gift. I sent this person a card. I never even know if they got it. Right. And I think that's what you're saying. I I think I just Ijust caught on to what you really I was kind of taking it a different way. Now, the person did say that they didn't expect anything much, you know, if you just send a card, but you don't even know if they got it because it's kind of flippant. And I hadn't thought of it that way. So, now I get what you're saying. It's if you give a gift to someone and you never hear that they got it or didn't get it. I feel like that's lack of caring manners. I mean, that's just my opinion. Right. And you know these I feel likethat's the least you can do. Well, right. And you know what I what I sent out there wasn't really a gift but it was but it was a token of my um creativity and other people in the circle when mainly they get into these political discussions and wham wham wham wham back and forth and I'm like sometimes I don't get involved with that. A lot of times I'll just be a fly on the wall and listen to all that crap because they're not getting anywhere. They tear each other down with you know nitpicking on details. Ultimately, it'slike and I've even watched a conversation just get there say, "Well, I don't think we're accomplishing anything." Okay, that's enough of that. So, but like I said, with this with what I was talking about, um I'm probably probably being too sensitive or whatever, but like I said, then I get over it. I mean, I don't go into a corner and just curl up, but I'm being honest in our conversation in my blog that yes, I'm looking, I guess, for validation. And you know that so that's still the case. And you have, you know,you you've kind of given me again some very good points. Um because eventually you kind of want to outgrow that or at least not I think what I'm thinking about is don't let that spoil what I am doing that I think I'm doing a good thing. In other words, the fact that they didn't come back oh what that's a great thanks for doing that doesn't so therefore I just I don't say oh I won't do that anymore. No, if I know I'm doing the right thing or good things, I'm just going to keep doing it. Like I just toldyou, doing this banner, I should look it up, but save our planet. That that's a tagline I'm going to start using because I feel good about it. And does it influence anybody? I don't know. Is somebody going to come back and say that has nothing to do with Wordle? You know, I don't know. But for me, I'm I'm going to try to make it just a little bit more meaningful. And maybe I'll change that tagline to being more gerine to whatever the topic like I said with the polar bears and global warming and you know we're all in this togetherand we you know uh we're we're saving our own lives. The words of that song are just beautiful. You know we're saving our own lives. That's to me what global warming is about. We're not just saving whatever the polar bears. We're saving ourselves and our future generations. But, you know, we've reached a point now in our politics where suddenly, oh, that's a bunch of crap. I don't know. So, instead of running around with a sign saying stop global warming, I'm just putting it on my on my little YouTubes. So, that'sthat. But, I love you and I love talking to you and it's just always just always enlightening to hear your point of view on stuff. Well, you too, Peter. You've helped me so much with my journey with all this because it's not an easy journey. None of it is re Well, that's not true. Some of our journeys easy, but you know, going through the death of your spouse, of course, is not easy. And you've helped me so much with that. And you know, it's when you have someone you can talk to about anything and younever have to say disclaimers or anything, right? You know, it's such a gift. It really is. It really is. And I think as far as signing off maybe I think that is kind of what you can and should get out of anything is to appreciate what you have. Um Chip sends me these things from uh uh I'm going to see if I can summarize two things. One, oh my god, Seinfeld again. George uh meets whatever uh he's introduced to one of Seinfeld's new girlfriends, whatever. And so, hey, good to meet you and all this stuff and everything. Well,then they go their separate ways and she and he says, uh he says to Jerry says, you know, does she like me? Does she not like me? It doesn't seem like she likes me. And he says, I don't know, you know, I don't I don't know. She likes it or she doesn't like you. Yeah, but you know, he was he was worried. Yeah, but I I I want her to like me. He says, why why should she like you? You know, so my point is, and then there was some other character in there who loved him, who thought George was the greatest thing.He was like, you know, don't bother me. I'm I'm talking to Jerry. And so my point in telling you this story is that sometimes we are trying to win over somebody who kind of really doesn't matter. And then by doing that or while doing that, you're ignoring the people that actually do care about you. So it's a weird thing. You have to be aware of that. And um anyway, Seinfeld was just really funny about it. So that's good. They do so many things so well. Yeah. Exactly. Exactly. You know, it's just somuch fun. So, oh gosh, I'm going to appreciate the people who do validate me and keep on doing what I hope to be good stuff because you enjoy it. because I enjoy it first. You got it. Whole business here at hand is you enjoy it so much. Yeah. Having a blast. Well, listen, sweetheart. Like we were saying, I love you. Take care of yourself and rack up a few more adventures we can talk about next week. Yes. And I love you and I'll talk to you soon. All right. Bye. Okay. Bye.