Suddenly Single and Seeking Validation Part 4

 You

And here we go I think it's validation part four 

Alice McCracken Hurst

Yes 

You

Ha ha ha ha ha now just go ahead you know you fill in the blank here cause I've talked too much you go ahead. Tell me a little bit about I don't know. How did you stumble into a new relationship or whatever your feelings were about it? 

Alice McCracken Hurst

Well, I was told to wait a year and I did and Then I did something that I never thought I would do. In fact I said I will never ever do this and bingo. I did it. I went on a dating site. I went the one that my friend had been on and it worked well. And I met a few really interesting Men who live in my area and they were very everything was very on Comfortable I can't say I had any problems at all, which of course was what you're looking for and 

You

Right 

Alice McCracken Hurst

then I met someone That I really felt an attraction to and It ended up he was attracted to me, and then we started dating, and it turned into a wonderful relationship And I liked the fact that he had also had A relationship ends and so it's made it more Comfortable, you know to share about so we it was comforting to each of us in different ways you know to share about it and then we have very 

You

Yeah, yeah 

Alice McCracken Hurst

similar interest and so It turned out to be wonderful and Very relaxed and great on all levels you know as far as friendship Caring about each other helping each other out I guess all this all The things she think of in a healthy relationship, helping each other grow Definitely that happened, which is always a plus and Sharing new interest together you know I could go on and on, but those are the main Main points So I was delighted, and I'm not saying that dating apps are always a successful as my visits were with them, but it was comforting to me and now that I could reach out and meet people this way And not get into a awkward situation 

You

I'm fascinated to hear what you're talking about And you know I wanna jump in with my stuff, but let me know when let me know when and 

Alice McCracken Hurst

Oh, I'm upset yes, but I figure something else out. I'll add it later. 

You

OK because all right I'm I don't wanna be a clock watcher but I don't wanna go over that five or 10 minute things OK I'm a computer geek so when when eHarmony first came out, I thought man this is fantastic. This would be great. How great would it be if you can put in all your things that you like and don't like whatever and then they match you up using a query to match you up with somebody who is like-minded how great would that be because often times in relationships you know you're all lovey-dovey and you're this and that attractive for different reasons and then as you go along. You find oh they really don't like this. They really don't like that and so anyway being a computer gig like I thought that would be a cool thing. Alice I have not had any desire to go to a dating app and be honest I did I had a lot more curiosity a few years ago, which would've been in fit in a way it wouldn't be cheating but I was curious well you know who would I match up with what would be like? I've had now I have complete freedom and it hasn't even crossed my mind to even play around with it and that's kind of funny to me or interesting. The other thing is going like you know to this what you said navigating and navigating our relationships in our life, you know from me suddenly single still even after a year you're now you know. OK on your own, which is huge, but you also have found somebody like you're saying who you feel very very comfortable with and and I'm I'm thrilled for you the other thing I think I really wanna say you are my true friend and there's no F Band but maybe or wondering tensions I'm telling you that is such a great feeling to have just a true friendship with a female you know you could say who happens to be female whatever but no you're very you know you're you're very much feminine female, beautiful girl, but you're my sister, but you're my friend if you know what I mean the point being I have it have now ends up being kind of an awkward situation because I have You know made friends with a number of females all of whom I think are wonderful and I love them in their own ways and you know I wanna be a true friend and everything all this good stuff but I'm finding out that 

Alice McCracken Hurst

Well I would say this is my opinion that as long as you were not Leading someone into thank That you're headed somewhere as a couple now I don't believe it, but I don't believe you're doing that So if you were doing that, then I would say OK I would if you're doing that the person you've chosen to be the person that you're going to you know enjoy that with right now Then I would stick with just them It doesn't sound to me like that's what you're doing What I love you I love the expression when in doubt don't If you, you know, if you do not have feelings, and in fact when I was on that, what people do or did back then is, I would be talking to several men at once online and then I would date a different man every couple of days online And you don't have to tell them you're just you're getting to know someone to see if you even want to pursue a relationship